Lunch with friends and their former schoolmates whereby the two ‘outsiders’ feeling rather alienated themselves. It is a pretty common situation where two different groups don’t usually mix around, unless one steps out of the zone and enters the grey. Chemistry in between is one thing, the mindset of one is the other. Very often, we tell ourselves that we do not belong to that particular group and eventually, we don’t, since we are not willing to take the first step introducing ourselves, widen up our circle of friends, but rather wait for the opposite to approach us or letting the middleman to do the job instead. Indeed, having to be in the situation where we know no one else but ourselves can be terrible at times, depending on individuals of course; however, it is crucial to have the skills of approaching people, be it someone we know or the other way round. We may have the impression that alienation takes place only when we are surrounded by the unknowns, which is totally wrong, for it too occurs when we are with our closest; two friends discussing issues we know nothing about, one is down which somehow drag in the friends during an outing, a friend in deep thoughts, shutting channels away. A form of insecurity the alienation is, taking place whenever we know nothing, doubting our knowledge and skills, our impressions and postures towards the others.
