Monday, January 18, 2010

No Boundary



At times we are asked to believe in many things that sometimes we ourselves not even sure whether we should be, until the day we are being approached and touched, hence strengthening the faith and carry on. Nevertheless, it strictly depends on the issue involved, including the sensitive ones. One of the very few topics which has been pretty disturbing and confusing is that it seems to be a must to take side most of the time, though it appears to be and is a choice to be made whether we choose to fully commit in either side, never the both somehow. Neutral is never an option. Well, at least this is the message that seems to be passing around in the recent days. There are the times when everything has its pros and cons, and we are the ones who are responsible in picking the best out of the choices available. Nevertheless, what if we have the chance to extract the pros from the options presented in sight and compile them altogether as one, in us? What if we get to benefit ourselves and then the people around us simply by learning and applying the teaching we received from the two distinct worlds? We may be greedy for having to enjoy from the best of both worlds, we might be irresponsible for not able to commit entirely in one and only one colony and we probably be labeled as ‘no boundary’ simply due to the fact that we are being neutral, trying to learn more by not taking sides and being biased; still, as long as it means no harm to anybody or anything and it is not against our very own principles, it is certainly acceptable. We know nature or nurture alone does not play the entire role in shaping our behaviours and personalities, so how sure are we that 100% serving in one particular side is any better? Pure breed may be pedigree but extreme behaviour is not necessarily an advantage. Similarly, no-boundary does not give us any reason to go against the concept simply because we’re not part of it. It is how much we learn from making a decision that counts, as it is not the belief that matters at times, but the teaching within.



Sunday, January 3, 2010

Commercialised Children



Looking at the two 9 year old girls competing with each other in the screen, where both trying their very best not in performing their skills but to act like an adult, showing the so called high self confidence by insulting one and another’s performance, claiming themselves to be of the higher level, we couldn’t help it but to shake our heads. Seriously, the children these days often come in packages, from the adult-like physical appearance minus off body figure, to the abilities in various fields such as singing, dancing and even mimicking. It is as though meeting the criteria above has become the only way to ensure children’s brighter future; otherwise, they do not survive or stand out among the crowd. Come to think of it, how often do we not attracted to the children who start showing incredible dance moves on stage and winking non-stop as though all opposite sex will for sure fall for them? How often do we actually look at a child and be amazed by him or her for being ordinary and living a normal childhood life, instead of attending different classes for academic and performing arts at the age of 5? Somehow it seems to be great to have children behaving like adults, both appearance and ability wise, with less thoughts given to them behaving like children can be great too. Is this a form of condition to prove how advanced we human beings are, by having the children acting like adults and adults continue behaving like one too? Is commercialising the only way to be outstanding and bring happiness to children, or it is the fastest way of getting us the adults big bucks and fame instead? We may be saying how well we know our children, we might be trying to convince them on the benefits they are getting in the future simply by following our sayings and we probably be telling many others we are simply doing it for the well being of the children. Nevertheless, their thoughts should be taken into account as it is their lives we’re making decision for, not just any of wooden puppet we created out of woodblock.



Right & Wrong



What do we really expect to hear as we share our little issues and thoughts with the people around us? What do we want to hear the most as we express ourselves; the supporting statements or perspectives against ours? How often do we actually listen to what the others have to say and weigh the significance of their opinions? At times we can be so blind and deaf that we do not see how things are linked altogether, does not matter whether the one decision we made eventually leads to something awful or the opposite. Some of us dislike judgement as we find it unfair, even if we were the ones who seek for advice from others in the first place and eventually label those ideas as judgements when we find them unfit to our own theories. Some of us don’t know what to expect and what to do even if we’ve collected dozens of suggestions regarding the issues we’ve put up as we fail to differentiate the right from wrong and the wrong from right. Some of us simply want to share the problems which have been very disturbing instead of looking for solutions to completely get rid of them; a way to temporarily clear our mind. There are the times when we refuse to admit our wrong or even the more negative part of us, as we try to please the others and amaze them perhaps, just so to have them find us cool and great; hence, the attention. There are the times when we simply find it wrong to comment on others that they are wrong and always have been, as it seems to be the wrong manner if we do not acknowledge people’s own thoughts to their own problems and to have them agree to ours instead. It is as simple as us finding our decisions right at all times, when we are highly self-centred especially, that we find it hard to accept the right comments regarding our behaviours and beliefs which may and can be wrong at times. Not that it’s something unusual but common enough to find such phenomenon taking place around us, including ourselves.