Racing With Time

During the obstacle course, we’ve seen them rushing the teammates, hoping to overcome all challenges ahead within the shortest time frame so that they’ll be able to win the game, not knowing how well the opponents did and hence, the little dissatisfaction along the way, raising their volume against those who are slightly slower. There was this saying that we have been racing with time in our entire lives, no idea how well we’re coping with the world and how good we actually are. Never once we thought of stopping by the road side and take a break from the rush hours, for we are feeling insecure and with the desire to win overwhelming us, we urge ourselves to carry on, even though we are thoroughly worn out. We may enjoy the moment of winning and we might have fun during the process, if we see it from a different angle as we overcoming our limits and try something new. Nevertheless, there are the little possibilities that we would go out of track along the way especially when we lose our heads, turning from hero to zero as we rush ourselves without seeing where we actually heading to.

Befriend

Exchanging contact numbers has been a form of socializing skill in the current days, whenever we meet someone new who manages to capture our attention or perhaps a person who we can click on pretty well. Nevertheless, it is also known as one of the few must-dos in order to get closer to one particular person we’re interested in, somehow, and so there will be the higher potential in the days to come for a stronger bond to be formed. Well, at least that’s the first thing which would come in mind in general. Remembering the time when we bumped into a group of teenagers at the beach, a friend was self-introducing, looking straight into the girl’s eyes as if no one else matters in the world. That’s for one case. A question was being asked the other day, whether a friend would walk up to the couple who was accompanied by another friend for self introductory if he finds the girl pretty cute and fun to chat with. The answer was no. Why? Simply because the girl has already been taken. Perhaps this is part of the revolution as claimed, where certain people no longer find friendship as amusing as relationship and getting hot chicks, showing off in front of their mates on how many opposite genders they have in their friend list. Perhaps many have gone through the stages of losing close friends that they not wish to be involved in a relationship with people from the closed circles and would only befriend with those who are single and available. Do we exchange contacts simply for the sake of getting a potential soul mate? Not for all I suppose. Friendship may be developed into relationship but not all relationships would be able to take on the form of friendships. The truth is, sometimes we’ve got to remind ourselves which path we are to take on, whether we want to befriend with someone simply for the sake of getting involved in a whole new relationship or to go with the flow and see where it would lead us to in the days to come. What is the purpose of us meeting new people really? Friendship or relationship?

State of Mind

Attended Eco Camp 116 in Dusun Eco Resort, where the participants are aged from 13 to 17 and there I’ve attended a very important lesson by one of the very few respectable seniors on the first day itself. Like many have known, there is an invisible boundary around us especially when it comes to our doings, in which is predetermined by the adults who bring us up, passing such knowledge from one generation to another until the day a person who would actually go across the boundaries and leave the trade mark in many souls. It is a box which traps us in, which we already have in mind that we are not allowed to go beyond the limitations, though some may not obey such rules and regulations at times. It has always been the mind and actions taken which matter, whether we would react before thinking it through or the other way round. When it comes to the challenges in life, we may hesitate, not knowing how to solve it as the choices given are limited, that is if, we dare not think out of the box and take the risk to step beyond the boundaries. Otherwise, the choice is ours to be made, and the escape route would be in sight. Here’s an example given. A beautiful young lady would be forced to marry a hideous old man if she picks up a black pebble instead of white from the sack given as her father owes him a sum of money; however, she has seen him putting in both black pebbles instead and there is no way she can say no in taking up the challenge. Is there any glimpse of hope in escaping from the fate to marry such despicable man? Remember, it is the state of mind which would give us strength and keep us going; think out of the box and take the risk.

iPod

When we were on our way back from Redang just the other day, he put on his earphone and started listening to music. Looking at him, well, none of us have any idea what he is listening to, until he passed me one of the two speakers. Guess that’s that. We tend to seek for listeners throughout our lives and with them lending us their ears, we have a place to speak up and hence, releasing anger or any complaint we have in mind and perhaps sharing the happiness we’ve had. If we were to categorize the people on earth, there would be two in general; one is keeping everything to themselves and only hand over one of the two speakers when it is necessary or when they find the suitable listener whereas the other one is those who would plug in their iPod onto a general speaker, sharing everything they have in mind with everybody in sight, be it joy or sorrow. Frankly speaking, I find sharing the happenings around us pretty addictive in a way, does not matter whether our main purpose is to show off with our abilities or simply for the sake of telling them to someone we’re close with, nevertheless, sometimes we just couldn’t find the right person, even if we’ve tried to passed him one of the two speakers we have.

Circle

Life is like a circle, where there is no beginning and no end. As we come across all kinds of incidents taken place, we learn from the experiences and we get to expand our circles of friends, meeting different people from different areas with different impression given. Even though it is the first day we get to know this particular person, doesn’t mean it is the first time we meet each other, for we may have bumped into him once as we walk on the street, not knowing who he really is until the day has finally come for us to meet for real. Even though it has been quite a while since we befriend with a person, doesn’t mean we know everything about him, as we may still be on the doorstep instead of the inner part of his heart. When is the beginning for one relationship and when the end would be, be it the friendship or partnership? Would the end simply means for real or it is only the beginning? Perhaps the beginning is simply leading us straight to the end or the other way round, perhaps it is a never-ending process where it would repeat itself over and over again as long as we live and perhaps it is our choice to make it the way we wanted it to be, if and only if we’re strong enough to hold on to our will. We never know. A circle can be formed from the same starting point and also a different one; hence, the beginning of one circle may be initiated from the ending of a different point and likewise, the end of a circle may be resulted from a different beginning.

When to Fail

Went to French fine dining with a friend and his mates, experienced something new. In one of the conversations the lady mentioned about her friend who failed the exam in the last 30 seconds due to the smallest mistake, when everything was going smooth and well. Like what most people would say, “Ouch.” We do have a saying in which failure is the mother of success. Well, that is if we did not give up upon our hopes and skills obtained. It varies from one perspective to another really, as incidents taken place, whereby some may not be able to carry out the task given from the very beginning and those who failed to complete theirs when they are half way through or for worse, when they are this close to the finishing touch. Indeed, having to fail at start is depressing, for we do not get to put in any efforts at all; not able to put our skills to test, not able to work things out along the way and not able to see how it would end before it is even started, in the sense of being ended after a certain efforts put in that is. In the other case, we have those who were so close to the top tripped and fell, where we then have to start from the scratch all over again. Whining and nagging we might be, wishing us not have made that insignificant yet significant mistake in the first place, but what is done is done, and there goes another regret recorded. Having to fail is one of the very few must-face experiences in life; therefore, it is the learning experience that matters, better than not able to give it a try at all. In any cases, if I were given a choice of when to fail, close to the finishing touch would be the best, at least I know how far I can go and how well I do, and so when the similar opportunity shows I would show no hesitation.

The Distance

It has been weeks since I stopped working, yet it feels like months after going out day and night with different groups of people, where incidents taken place; from seeing my dream of studying in the foreign land to facing the reality hence decided to pursue it years after, from wondering about the consequences after a decision being made to accepting the changes occurred. Remembering the expressions on their faces when I was bidding farewell, the distance in between is brought closer, where no words are needed when it comes to communicating and interacting with one and another. Inspired by an article regarding the distance between us the human beings, where the distance between our hearts is what that matters most, resemble how close we can be. When two persons are angry at each other, does not matter how much they try to come to an understanding, the distance in between would be way beyond their reach, hence the screaming and yelling in order to deliver their messages. On the contrary, when the two beings are in good relationship, the distance in between is greatly reduced, hence the whisperings. Here is one interesting part about the distance between us; that is, it changes all the time, according to the incidents taken place and words spoken. Basically, we hold the key to heart-to-heart communication, that is if, everything is in place.