Obscene. Evil

Looking at the picture of a sexy bare back lady, a friend called it obscene; looking at the candid photo of a teacher which somehow looks funny, a friend said speak no evil. Why obscene and why evil? Perhaps it is simply an expression that we dislike one particular style of a person and that we should say nothing regarding the funny moments being captured in the camera, especially those candid shots. This is the result of variation in perspectives. Some do not agree to the fashion of wearing low cut tops or dresses where we show plenty of our skin whereas certain groups categorize it under beauty; Some enjoy taking candid as it always surprise us in a way as we don’t see the same poses over and over again but rather the moments where we don’t usually manage to capture whereas some find it offensive because that is their privacy. However, people tend to put the so called principles and views aside whenever they are not the person involved, in another words, no actions would be taken as long as they are not the ones in the picture where many others laughing at, not to mention we prone to not remember the feelings of being insulted or offended when we ourselves are teasing the others due to a photo or an act. Call that obscene? Not really. Call that evil? Don’t suppose so.

Teachers

All teachers teach, but not everyone teaches and those who teach not necessary able to deliver the message accordingly. We can find teachers in school, but also in the circles around us, for it is not a must to be a teacher before we can teach. Those who understand may not be able to teach and those who can teach may not understand what they are teaching. A simple theory with the simplest definition can sometimes be deadly, when we fail to interpret the meaning and when the channel is not right. Perhaps each and every one of us is a teacher, not realizing that we actually have students learning from our mistakes and from their own, that we are teaching them the lessons in life, chapters which we can never find in the books. Down the journey of life off we go, we find ourselves home and from one checkpoint to another, we get ourselves teachers, be they the teachers in school, a friend in the circles or even strangers by the roadside; it does not matter who they are or where they are from, as the most important fact is that we have learned, from the teachers who may not be teachers.

Shadows

Shadows come in different shapes and sizes, depending on the external factors. Always, we are able to see the people around us from a different angle and always, we fail to see ours instead. As a listener, we hear dozens of stories, be they the unspeakable or the opposite; as an advisor, we share the opinions of ours, hoping it can at least untie the dead knot in many; as a person, we need helps at times, especially when we are trapped within the world we can never imagine. When we are to say that shadows are our reflection in which they are telling us who we really are, note that it changes, just like how our roles vary from one situation to another; when we are being told that we are worthless, fight back and prove to those who never have faith in us, that we are not who they think we are as it can only be determined by our doings and not the words from their lips; when we are hypnotized by the perspectives of others and our low self-esteem that we are useless, it is time to wake up and take a good look at ourselves in the mirror, to recall the past and to change the future by alternating our current thoughts. Understand the shadows and we shall interpret our lives better, as each shadow has its very own story to tell, where we link them up all together before we are to discover who we really are.

Third Affection

Sometimes wonder, are we living our own dreams or of others’ instead? Is our doing related to what we like to do or even what we want to do in the first place? Why the opinions of third parties can affect us so bad that we lose control of the direction and even ourselves at times? Dreams can be real and the reality can be dreams; whichever it is, how clear are we? There is no clear cut, no nothing especially when the perspectives are all mixed up and we have no idea where to start with. We have those who are in dilemma when there are two or more options given, people who ask others to make the decisions on their behalf, individuals who struggling hard to survive and yet end up coming back to the starting point where the history repeats. What the others have to say are indirectly affecting our thoughts and decisions being made, which may boost us up to the top or perhaps, kick us down the bottomless pit; say, we agree with the others on how insignificant we are, we allow people to ruin our confidence being built after years of effort, we welcome them to tell us what we are instead of us searching for the answer. Indeed there are times where the third parties know better, but not always; as what they see might only be the surface and not the inner part of ours.

Wish List

We have a wish list of our own, be it obtaining an item, meeting a person or even making a dream comes true; however it is unpredictable how long it may takes to make them a reality instead of a dream. A question came into the mind; do we fulfill the dreams alone or we need help from the others as well? Perhaps many would say it is essential for us to fight for what we deserved, to complete the quests alone and to get what we jotted down in the wish list with our own bare hands; in which is close to impossible at times, but not always. On the other hand, there are those who ask favors from the people around when help is truly needed in order to achieve one of the aims stated in the wish list. Whichever ways being used is fine, as long as we earn it the way we should be, not through cons and lies, for the wish lists are so holy and pure as they contain the wishes and dreams of a person, where efforts will then be put in so that it would no longer be a dream, but for real.

On Stage

Standing on the stage where the audiences were hidden in the dark, as the light was so dim that we could barely see any, except for the spotlight which was shining on us, making our eyes went blind. Funny feeling it was, as if we are the items on the display shelf of the higher ground, where many can see what we do and who we are but not necessary us knowing who they are and what they do in return unless they are outstanding enough to show up under the same spotlight. In the current society of ours, we have different positions and grading; where people compete with one and another in order to climb to a higher ground, where many look forward to be at the higher position, where most of us think that we are at the top of the world and no one else can achieve what we already have. As we go higher, we tend to see nobody in sight, not exactly in the sense of we look down on the others but us prone to ignore what they have to say or have in mind, whereby we need a middleman in order to keep the two parties connected from time to time. On the other hand, we are often being judged by the visible and invisible, as there would always be the criticism does not matter what we do or how we do it, since there are the differences in perspectives and views. Anyhow, it is the spotlight which would determine us on who and where we are; to do so, we need to stand out among the crowd, to be on stage, be it in the sense of physical appearances, mentality or capability.

Demanding

It was a talk in the car, where one particular topic was brought up. Very often, we find people demanding in variety of areas, be it between the couple, friends and family or even among strangers. Perhaps we are being ignorant when it comes to our own attitudes, or maybe, we do not notice the fact that we are not as perfect as we think we are. From time to time we hear people saying sentences like, “I want you to smile,” “You should respect me because I am older,” “I didn’t expect him to do such a thing,” where some may be pissed and some feeling happy as the incidents occur, varying from one to another. Such demands or perhaps in another word, the requests are sometimes from the bottom of the heart when we truly mean it, does not matter whether it is in a good way, or bad way. This is how it usually goes; when we care for one particular person, we would ask for more, even if it seems to be ridiculous and harsh, as long as it does him good. On the other hand, the level of demands is sometimes proportional to the price we are paying, or even the prize we would be getting. Say, when we pay a certain amount of money, we demand for higher quality and also the quantity, if possible; as we spend our time and other ‘materials’ needed in order to get our hands on one particular item or person, we expect to earn something in return for the very least. A friend asked, “Aren’t we demanding?” Yes we are, in a way.

Risk Taking

There is a certain risk in the actions we choose to take, not necessary in the sense of bringing harm to our lives, but also affecting the decisions which soon to be made, the impression of others and the self-consciousness. When we are saying this particular incident or act is dangerous and that it might cost us our lives, where else in this world is safe and there is no such word as “danger”? When we are telling the others how dangerous the outside world is, as the unexpected events may take place anytime and anywhere, how sure are we that such unwanted incidents would not happen in the house, where our home sweet home is? There are indeed different categories of danger, where it may be due to natural occurrences or human acts and each of them has their very own role in this universe, creating the particular waves of mortality and natality. Risk is essential, does not matter who we are, what we do and where we are; a businessman takes the necessary risk to make his company well-known, a patient decided to go for the fifty percent in order to survive, a scientist goes through trial and error so that the truth can be found; all and all, one main purpose is to create our future, to bring ourselves forward and to survive in this world. Risks are not as scary as we think it can be, nor it is as dangerous as we think it would be, for it is the perspectives of ours which make it sounds like one and seem to be one.

Resemblance

We tend to see someone else in the shadow of a person, but not always, we see ourselves in the others. We are good in complaining, in pointing out the errors and weaknesses of the circles around us; however, never once we include ourselves in the counting, even if we do belong in that category. It is the resemblance they say, when we find a person with the most familiar attitude and smile, reminding us the one we once knew or still in touch with. On the other hand, resemblances can also be found in the actions or words being used and plenty of such similar occurrences taken place in the surrounding, where one tends to repeat the same old doing he once dislikes, as if it is a form of revenge on the following generations; say, a woman who purposely make things difficult for the daughter-in-law, though she once been through the same and truly understand how it feels. Is it our personality by nature, that we erase the memories of us being in the same situation, that we hypnotize ourselves to behave in such a way that the history repeats? Or perhaps we are simply forgetful, not remember how it once felt like when we personally going through? Even if we do recall the previous moments where we suffered, some may just ignore the fact how much pain it can bring and say, “Now you know how I feel.” Such irony and yet frequently found in the society.

Nightmares

It was years ago since the last nightmare; a skeleton popped out from a box, chasing after the girl, who ran as fast as she could, not looking back, all the way to her mother’s room. Waking up in the middle of the night has never been good, as it could either be due to insomnia or a dream which would freak us out terribly; whichever it is, it is unpleasant. Yesterday, the mutated species showed up, trying to bite her neck off. Awful feelings having to be stared by an unknown, seeing two shadows standing outside the room and that no one else is there to lend her their helping hands; it was only a dream, yet, the anxiety, the fear and the helplessness were so real. The two shadows were the last sight of the nightmare, where she is again back to reality, knowing it was merely a dream, where a text was sent to the dearest who is 15 hours away, seeking for comfort and a call was then received. Smile. Perhaps this is the only advantage of having nightmares, to know someone is there by our sides, reminding us that it was just a dream and nothing more, supporting us when we are about to collapse, telling us everything would be fine and that we are safe. With the company of those who care, we are able to sleep soundly; just like how we used to squeeze ourselves in between our parents whenever we have nightmares, like what we always do whenever we wake up in the middle of the night; simply because we know that we are safe, especially we have someone who cares.

Without You

Without opinions from the third parties, we might not know that we’re wrong at times; without the words from people who care, we would not know how wrong we can be; without emotions being shown by the people around, we see nothing but ourselves. Over the time, we notice the differences from one to another just by communicating, interacting and through bonding, where we learn to review our past, be it the things we’ve committed or the words we’ve spoken, where we then proceed with changes, hoping for a better tomorrow. Perhaps this is the way as it is, that we can never step forward without others, that we see no future if it is just us alone, that we are individuals in a community, a society where we are living in. Personally learned a few lessons through relationships, which includes friendships and the biological related circles; where the understanding has been made by exchanging opinions and thoughts, realizing the fact that some attitudes have indeed brought anger and tears to the loved one, where changes are to be made in order to maintain or perhaps, bringing the relationship up to another level. A toast to each and every one of us, as we play the essential role in the lives of others, making a difference and creating the future, cheers.

Suicidal

Every now and then we receive news regarding suicide cases, stories where one tries to end his life by cutting the wrist and so on; which now being categorized as sin against the rules living on this planet, where the perspectives regarding this matter vary from one to another due to different influences. Suicidal, the intention of ending one’s lifespan or causes destruction of one’s interest and careers; in which personally find it applicable in our daily actions as well, not in the sense of giving up upon our lives and dreams, but the moment where we are losing our heads and commit the most ridiculous ever, yet still find it appropriate. When we are too angry or upset, to the point where we find our doings and words are somehow the best, it might turn out to be the other way round; say, we prove that we’re not afraid of death and that we have nothing else to lose by driving our car towards an innocent passerby, where the person on the passenger seat stopped us and we then brag about how incredible we are to the third party. Pathetic it is, indirectly killing the connection we’ve made and ruin that impression of ours; is that not one of the suicide cases committed? Well, like what they always say, anger is one alphabet away from danger and depression is bad for health; when we fail to control the emotions, what we do or say might just be equivalent to suicidal and we never know.

Wanted

It is easy to list out the things which we dislike, but sometimes it is hard to tell what we wanted most. We might be jealous or feeling envious of what the others have, be it the skills they possess or the incidents occurred to them; where we tend to compare with one and another, from what we have been through to who we are. Certainly, we’ve done things which we regretted most, we’ve heard rumors which we find it pointless to know and we’ve said the words which bring pain us and to the rest of the world; all and all, those might not be what we intend to do in the first place, or perhaps, they are. When we were younger, way before we are exposed to more options and decisions, it is either we have no clue of what we want to do, or we can answer the questions being asked without any hesitation. However, after going through dozens of incidents where the expected turns out to be unexpected, our confidence has been killed by the uncertainties, surrounded by the mist while searching our ways out. Time consuming it is, in order to figure what we wanted most, and hence work our through; but who knows, we might be in luck.

Mind's Eye

At times we want people to see what we see, to hear what we hear and to know what we know; forgetting the fact that they sometimes see what we don’t see, hear what we don’t hear and know what we not know of. From time to time we wonder why there are people who always seem to be against our perspectives and ideas, where we find it hard to meet someone who shares the same opinions as we do, where we feel desperate and empty, where we are not motivated enough to keep on searching. Perhaps it is just us who not want to speak up our minds, thus missing the channels which would lead us to our kind, forming the bridge between two different worlds; perhaps we are not patient enough to listen or even give them the time needed, as we refuse to go deeper than the surface we ever come across with, thinking there is no such necessity to do so; perhaps we are simply stubborn, holding on to the belief that no one shares the common in us at all, hence overlook the people who we have been searching for eternity, though they are right here by our sides. Emotions, actions and thoughts; each plays a part in creating an individual, each comes along with different combinations and each brings about varieties of influences and effects. To find a person who shares at least one thing in common, we shall learn to use the mind's eye, as our eyes and heart alone are not enough.

Blending In

Come to a foreign place, where everything seems to be unfamiliar and not known, where we feel alienated and miss our home the most. It is not necessary to be us who couldn’t speak and failed to blend with the groups, but us who are not able to accept and let go. Remembering first moved in and enrolled into new school, attitude changed from a girl who once not afraid of getting involved in arguments and fights to a girl who minds her own business and sweeps the floor whenever she is early. Certainly, things changed later on when new friends are found, where she is back on track, including fighting the opposite gender; when she finally accepts the fact that she has to move on and let go, with the help of the soon to be familiar faces who started their first conversation. Perhaps some may find it as easy as a piece of cake when it comes to socializing as all we have to do is to speak up and smile. True enough but, how many tend to have the smiles off their faces when the crowd is gone? Blending in might not be the root of the alienation we are going through after all, but our hearts which determine us and the following paths. We need something to hold onto in order to stay, be it a group of people or simply a dream coming true; we need to be home in order to feel home, be it with the biological family or the opposite; the time will comes when we are ready to let go, when we finally blended in.

Worthy Tears

There’s a message going around; no men or women worth our tears and when they do, they won’t make us cry either. A statement in which, is partially true. We Homo sapiens are none other than emotional beings, who undergo evolution from time to time, with high imagination and creativity, bringing new era to the very land. As what the definition defines, emotions are shown when we are moved by one particular incident, person or atmosphere, be it joyful, depress or anger. There is also another saying regarding this attitude of ours, that emotions exist only when we care, though it is not necessary to be shown in public, as some may find it personal. Tears are the result of emotions, where it occurs when we are thrilled, upset or pissed. Believe it or not, sometimes it is uncontrollable. Does the statement really apply for all situations? Doubt so. If it does, does that not mean we should blacklist anyone who brings us our tears? Emotions exist in relationships, be it in between lovers, friends or family; without them, we are nothing but walking zombies with no expressions. Worthy or not, it is up to us who determine, with the influences from external factors; though we usually find it worthless after the unwanted incident happens and the opposite when everything goes well.

Differentiation

When we get hold of something, be it the information or rumours, we tend to find things different from how we used to see them, as we have affected by the information received, the object we have obtained. If we have the ability to see the future, it will no longer be the same as we would have changed them when it is not the way we wanted them to be and similarly, our perspectives undergo such differentiation when something new is added in, where we prone to find things obvious though it might not be in the eyes of third parties who have no clue on what is going on. What is done is done and will definitely leave its remarks in our memories, be it the things we have spoken, the rumours we have heard or the doings we’ve went through. We are welcomed to delete the past messages received and throw away the items we’ve accepted, but one thing for sure, differentiation in thoughts and doings is irreversible, does not matter how much we are to deny such facts as things will never go back to how it used to be, only to be differentiated further. The changes may now be insignificant but days after, it would pile up and become the significant; our so called, differentiation.

Clarification

Doubts, questions and wonders; where we want clarification to be made and yet not able to do so due to variety of reasons, hence, leaving it aside, hoping it will soon be over with. A misconception which many still apply daily as we are not brave enough to do what it takes in order to achieve what we wanted most, not to mention we couldn’t bear the pain and misery it might bring us at the very end. During the process of doubting the person we love, questioning the people we care for and wondering what might come up next which would simply kill the relationships we are currently in, we tend to be sensitive and overreact at times, where more questions will be asked, more doubts coming to the surface and more wonders would be taking over our heads. How does a clarification occur? Does it truly clarify all things which have come across our minds? Personally, not all doubts can be eliminated, not all questions will be answered and certainly not all wonders would remain to be, if we ourselves fail to accept the way as it is and overcoming it. “Problems which cannot be solved are not problems,” quoted from a wise teacher. Hence, clarification occurs only when we are able to talk things out, when we choose to share all the relative wonders and doubts, when we are able to solve the problems.

Category of Advices

Dozens of methods there are, to boost our studies and careers; many advices given, in the sense of encouragements and opinions. Perhaps we know what we are doing and what should be done, or maybe we simply don’t, while the others seem to always think that we have no clue on what we are going through and that, is when the nagging comes in, where we find annoyance and impatience. Some may say there is no harm in listening to the advices, as it is not a necessity to apply if we find them inappropriate; some might be thinking that the third parties know nothing about our situations, hence not see the reasons why we even bother to listen; and some on the other hand would take the advices as the guide to success, for those are the summaries of lifetime experiences and ventures. At the very end of the day, it is us who decide what to do and which to apply, does not matter whether we agree to what the others have to say and it is us who are to bear the outcomes of our decisions being made, be it in the long run or short. How we categorize each type of advices depending on how we look at it and who that person is, if we are to accept it.

Manner of Silence

From time to time, we choose to remain silent when we are not satisfied with the service in one restaurant, when we are too pissed to talk, when we see no reason to speak about all emotions of ours. We refuse to visit that particular shop lot, we complain to the third parties or we simply keep it to our own instead of giving them our comments on further improvements, reason with them and speak up. Some may think it is more appropriate to spill and not leave it at one side, some may find it rude to comment directly on their faces and some may say, “Just let it be.” Perhaps it is due to the teaching we’ve been received since young, that we shall leave the insignificants aside, not exaggerating the problems but to minimize it to the maximum, to none. To be honest, how many can actually ignore the dissatisfaction just like that, to not feel a thing after an incident which might just get on our nerves? Not many, except those who can get things off their minds as easy as a piece of cake. Remembering what the adults used to say, remaining silent is a form of manner in our current society, where the nobility is shown in a way. True enough, as our emotions are hidden behind the mask.

The Light

I was told about the light of mine goes dimmer, unlike the previous time where it shines so bright. Come to think of it, we often express others in terms of light, be they cheerful, mysterious or not known, where the brightness varies from one to another. Remembering the old game my father used to play, “Age of Empire”; strategies are needed and we are required to move fast in preparing our army before the enemies are to attack. We explore the areas where the war is about to take place, to learn more about the opponent’s strengths and weaknesses, to equip ourselves better. Each step we take, a particular area of the surrounding is lightened, completing part of the map we have; and the bigger group we are in, the brighter it seems to be. Applying that in our lives, we shine; does not matter who we are, what we are and what we do. Even if we think we are the most insignificant among all, we still shine, as that is who we can be, with or without us knowing. Indeed we may not only bring happiness to the people around, but also sorrows and anger; however, it does not mean that we don’t shine, because we still do and will continue to be. All and all, it is our choice on how bright we want ourselves to be; to shine for us alone or to shine for all.

Late or Early?

Changes occur in the surroundings, in people, be it now or later; hence, it has never been too late to change but it will always be too early to judge a person, an incident or the future according to what we’ve seen. Perhaps some may say, what is done is done, a fact which can never be changed. It is indeed. However, the changes we now refer to are not equivalent to changing the past, but the future. Damage can never be removed, but it fades when we give it the permission to. So why hold on to the painful memories when we know changes can be made in the future, in our future? We don’t just sit there and feel miserable for life when we make mistakes; we make a change so that the history does not repeat itself. On the other hand, we do not conclude an ending when we have a choice to make, when there are the external factors which may causes variation, when it is too early to come to an end. We mold the future of our own, we predict the unpredictable and we hypnotize our very own thoughts, just so we think changes will not occur, as we are too afraid to face the reality, as we feel that changes are not reliable, as our sense of security is challenged; and at the very end of the day, we find ourselves trapped in between. It is hard to not come to a conclusion of our own but it brings no harm to go with the flow once in a while when we cannot move on further.

文与情

任文字再怎么的优美、再怎么的动人，却未必足以表达我们的情感与思绪，只因我们情不自禁的将精神投入在句子当中，而忽略了原先所要传达的事项及感受。然而，真正的美又是如何？或许一些简单的词句即可，也许只要放入一些感情即可；是这样吗？当我们将句子复杂化，得到的又会是什么？上一回投稿获得了回应，“愿见情感，而非文字”。对，无情的文章无法让人感受到写者的用意，只有文字的跳动。但要如何才能达到该水准呢？一试再试，仍不住的注重于用词与文句，即使投入的情感已足够，即使花费的时间已过多。难道多年来的受训只要我们利用文字组成美丽词句吗？或许再怎么好的文章仍有瑕疵，只因我们并非完美；也许这只是我们要求过高，而无法达到目标。批评与不满，欣赏与感动，两个相反的组合形成了我们今日的生活与协调，造就了我们现代的和平与满足。望有哪一天我能真正的突破自己所能，创下深入人心的文句，留下自己。

Rival & Competitor

Competitor can sometimes be replaced with the word ‘rival’, where two persons see each other as equal match instead of an opponent who must be defeated. Other than comparing our current results with the previous one, we compare ourselves from one to another, to know how good we are, to see how far we go, and to have a rival of our own; unavoidable comparisons which are to be made, be it involves only us or the rest of the world. Perhaps it has been part of our lives that we compare each other without us knowing, that we always judge ourselves and the others, that we sometimes not admitting the fact that we are comparing one from another. Moreover, there is a misconception that having rivals is unspeakable, the worst of all comparisons being made while it actually helps in improving ourselves, bringing us forward and further from where we are as it somehow gives us the motivation to work harder in order to exceed all people, especially the rivals. Personally, it is our hearts which determine the outcome of such rivaling, based on how we look at it and how we are to deal with it. When we fail to accept the fact that we cannot surpass the others, when we hate it so much of being the losers and when we overwhelmed by jealousy and hatred, we would then find ourselves becoming the worst ever, where we no longer take our rivals as rivals, but a competitor, an opponent, and an enemy.

Overdose

We take actions one after another, be it to speak or to act; we apologize for the things we have done which hurt the feelings of others, we thank the people who lend us the helping hands when we are desperate for one and we show the world what we are capable of, why we are here for and how we are to complete the tasks given. Always, we apologize after an incident, a word or an act, does not matter whether we truly accept the fact that we are at fault or simply say it for the sake of doing so, as if it has already became one of the must-say in our daily routines. On the contrary, we seldom thank people for what they have done for us, say, thanking the waiter for serving the table has somehow being banned in certain groups as some may think that it is our right to be served since we are the ones paying. When it comes to love, people either go all hyper or the opposite, where love is too common or too rare to be found, where some may take it less important and some say it is the best we can ever have, where we either not know what else can be said other than or only know the phrase “I love you”. All which evolve around us are none other than apology, appreciation and love; which now have been overused, hence not able to achieve the optimum effect of what it is supposed to be.

相比

无论是谈吐、举止、样貌或身型，我们在外头的一举一动难免不夺他人目光，只因人类天生好奇，也专爱比较身边的人事物。诺是稍有无礼之处，定会感受到别人投来异样的眼光。或许，互相比较是登上高峰的捷径，也是人们夸耀自己辉煌的最佳时机；也许，那只是我们生存的阴影，时时刻刻提防着外来的祸害。殊不知，这一切、一切都是人类所创、人类所犯、人类共拥有的特征与心理，误认为那是唯一在地球上自立的方法。适当的相比无害，可过度的比较却会惹来不相干的苦难；当我们因钱财而弃源，所失去的不单单是身外物，而是内心的荣耀与本性；当我们因人言而弃己弃人，所拥有的将成往事，包括身边的人事物；当我们不停的与他人相比，失去的不仅仅是过去所种下的爱及和谐，也遗弃了自己和至亲。如此的结局果真是人生一大高就吗？

Proofs

A message, a card, a phone call; to deliver the notes in our hearts, to ensure the emotions are shared and to secure the belief we’re holding on. Little words from the bottom of the hearts often put the smiles on our faces, reminding us the memories we once had together, which we choose to treasure it forever by keeping it in our very world, reading it over and over again whenever we feel like it, to assure the taste of sweetness never fades. Kind a familiar, isn’t it? We keep the memories in the forms of cards, messages and journals, a proof to every moment we wish to cherish, a reminder to the happiness we have had, a key to our hearts with all sorts of emotions being stored; at the very end of the day, it is nevertheless an insurance to our insecurity, to our forgetful minds and souls. However, we are easily hurt by words and actions taken, where the proofs would then bring us pain instead of laughter, where we choose to erase such memories from our heads though it is less likely to happen, where we then blame the fate of ours and the people who causes the incident. All and all, it is about the proofs to the smiles lifted on the faces, to the tears rolling down the cheeks and last but not least, to our existence on this planet.

Synonyms

While structuring sentences, we are told to use synonyms instead of the same word over and over again or even replacing one whole sentence with only one word which carries about the same meaning in order to beautify our writing. Certainly, we may make mistakes, be it in essays or daily conversations; however, the effect of the latter sometimes brings greater harm compared to the former one, as words can never be taken back once they are fled from our lips. Though we often say, “I take back what I’ve said,” it is still a fact that can never be erased, for it may remains in the memories of others, forgive but never forget. Error in transferring data and messages often occurs during communication with the wrong synonyms being used, which then causes argument, loss of trust or even chaos for the worst. How to minimize the harm of such mistakes may bring us really? Frankly, there are not many solutions other than us being extra careful of what we are to speak, especially when we are the messengers; it is pretty hard if you ask me, as we alone might not be able to make this works, not to mention we may even fail to control ourselves when we are overwhelmed by our emotions, which then use the wrong synonyms and followed by the consequences it causes. 

Planning

How often do we plan in life? Do we plan everything or perhaps most of it? How much can we plan? How far can we go with such planning? We never know. Certainly, it might not be easy to plan a perfect function, a perfect day or even a perfect life, as a great deal of skills are needed for such perfection, as we must first foresee the destiny of ours, as the preparation shall be done in order to face the upcoming obstacles and attacks. When it comes to planning, we are required to prepare a backup just in case, to minimize the possibility of the plan going off track, to face the worst, both mentally and physically. Perhaps some may ask, “How bad can it be?” Not so bad of course, only costs us our future or even the others’ at worst, depending on each individual’s definitions. We don’t usually plan the schedules when it comes to widening the social circles of ours, though some may apply the opposite in the current days in order to gain themselves interest and benefits all the way to the top. Actually, what is the purpose of planning? Perhaps it is to ensure our lives? Or maybe it is for the sake of doing so? Whichever or whatever it is, it varies from one to another, with our very own stories to tell.

The Funniest

Whenever we’re watching real life comedy, we tend to laugh out loud, to the point of having stomachache and sore cheeks, though it is an unfortunate event that has taken place, the typical saying of happiness being built on other people’s sorrows. On the other hand, we prone to remember better the incidents that we actually been through or perhaps the stories we’ve heard, especially the funny ones; where we often define them as the funniest. We laugh when a poop falls right from the sky onto a cone while the man eating it, we laugh when a mother asks the son same question over and other again as she can hardly remember the things she has said and we laugh when a kid falls into the toilet bowl by accident; scenes in the movies which always bring laughter to all who present in the cinema, be it the incident which is less likely to occur or those which often takes place in certain household. Seriously, what is the cause to such attitude? That we laugh when we are not supposed to? Perhaps it is our nature that we find things funny without realizing how painful it can be, that such events are the source of laughter as they are not part of the imagination but for real, that we are just easily influenced by the emotions of others; and I am one of them.