Valid Experiences

While we are trekking inside a jungle for the very first time, we would usually watch our feet as we cut through the forest in hope of reaching final destination; hence less attention is paid onto the surrounding beauty. To and fro the journey, there aren’t many changes in terms of the way we explore the woods, other than the slight increase in speed, with little running and jumping through the paths and across river stones. Nevertheless, we still pay more attention to the possible obstacles within the jungle as we cut it across, and not putting more effort into recognizing the surrounding in case we get lost, or to admire the nature and enjoy the fresh air it provides. Perhaps we subconsciously know that all we have to do is to follow the trail people before us have left us, and that we are not required to put in extra effort in finding our ways in and out. Perhaps we are more cautious on safety measure in terms of possible injuries and not the probability of getting lost within the forest. Perhaps we simply want to complete the task in hand instead of enjoy it to the fullest. Come to think of it, do we not tend to focus on the difficulty of an ongoing task instead of the process in achieving it as well? Do we not wish to accomplish the work we are assigned to as soon as possible instead of wondering about the possible benefits behind? Then, are the experiences we’ve had valid at all? To a certain degree probably, it depends, really. 

解决 . 逃避

当脑里存有无数的不确定，思绪也自然而然变得混淆、迷惑。一旦心中藏有过多的不解与迟疑，面部神情亦随而之改变，显得较为忧郁，或平静。也许人们自身并不喜欢持续的被裹于神秘感里，或者是我们终究抵挡不住那份强烈的求知欲，进而尝试寻找所谓真相以一解内心疑问，取得短暂安宁。然而如此，其过程中所牵涉的又是否如想象般容易面对？无数的问题停留在嘴边，久久未能言语，困于后退与前进两者之间，犹豫不定。过量的探讨或会影响抉择后的感受，却总是成为众人所采用的方式以解除一切忧虑，望能取得所谓的品质保证，虽说其机率是何等的渺茫。惯用的解决技巧看在他人眼里或皆属逃离事实之计，仍得掌握的尚有千万里之远，仿佛遥不可及。日后将会发生的又会是如何？有待揭晓。

Hypnotizability

It is one stereotype that many assume all psychologists read minds, and the syllabus covers mainly on how to psycho people, attacking their thoughts. Personally have one unique view on matter as such, people generally have the talent in hypnotization, but require guidance in maximising the effect onto the surrounding individuals. What is the general definition of "hypnotization" anyway? Perhaps the process of directing a person to the subconscious in retrieving particular information which is not stored in the conscious mind? Or perhaps a trick to take an individual off the conscious mind and hence listen to whatever instructions given by the so called master? How about the daily incidents where people set boundaries on their capability, therefore limiting their very own achievement? Take a look back then, how often do we tell ourselves or others on what is achievable and what is not? Are those not hypnotization in different forms? Putting in social theories in explaining the effects stated above: when a stimulus is constantly shown, the belief on particular subject is then strengthened. In short, the priming effect. The increase of availability somehow shape or even change our perception on certain view. Therefore, hypnotization is a skill in which implemented through the developmental process and shaped by the social cognition, and it is certainly not available only among the psychologists. Now, how interesting this is to sleep on.

Self-Advertising

Very often we brag about our experiences, exaggerating them in fear of not having someone to acknowledge us. Well, maybe it does not apply to all, but there are indeed those who would engage in activities as such in order to boost their fame among the social circle. At times we promote ourselves as we interact with others, through the words spoken and ideas shared, not necessarily in exchange for money but the little satisfaction on our perceived recognition from the peers or even family members. As we speak, we are giving people a rough idea on how our personality is like and from there we know whether both parties are able to click on as time goes by. As we share our knowledge or experiences, be it revolves around us or the circle involved, we advertise our perspectives in search for those who agree to our proposals and join in the forces. We have those who are willing to insult their friends just so to create the comparison that they are of higher quality and we have people who try to amaze the friends through ridiculous story plots so others would find them spectacular. Nevertheless, the intention of advertising own self may result in irreversible side effects such as the loss of faith and trust, if and only if, we fail to do it the right way. Then again, the definition of appropriate advertisement varies across individuals. 

Responsibility

Unwanted incident happens, though it can always be avoided when precautions are taken. Nevertheless, it requires both parties to work mutually only then accidents can be prevented, instead of just one. Taking car accident as an example, one person may be a safe driver and always look out for possible danger on the road, but, accident still occurs when another individual who is drunk and fails to stop eventually hit the car of that particular person. Putting who-is-at-fault issue aside, no one wanted to be involved in any car wrecks from the very beginning, but with only one side taking the precaution to avoid undesired incidents taking place is not sufficient enough to actually prevent accidents from happening. It is our responsible to make sure things are on track, to push ourselves further for the better and to accept the outcomes of the decisions made. However, people interpret the term ‘responsibility’ differently; dealing with the circumstances of previous choices made, blaming oneself for the occurrence of unwanted incidents, improving for the better in ensuring one’s success et cetera. Certainly, some may see all the actions mentioned above as a whole, as it fits onto the common senses we develop overtime on how to be responsible for the options taken, but for sure there is the one particular act which we prefer or tend to be engaged in. One important question lies within our responsibility and that is; what is the main reason we choose to be responsible over our actions? Do we do it for the sake of accepting the fact that it has already happened? Does our responsibility mean we acknowledge our fault and get upset? Or do we improvise and figure a better ways of solving problems in case something similar takes place again in the near future? Getting stuck in the past does not bring us forward, neither does spending whole day wondering about future helps improving ourselves, but only when we realise the present and come up with a proposal to how things should be done that we can and able to change our lives, hence marching towards brighter future. 

Perceived Space

Have you ever felt the time passes way slower when you’re driving on medium road as compared to highway, though it’s about the same hours spent? Have you ever felt suffocating in a limited space which only allows little movements, as though you’re trapped and will never be freed? There are different kinds of space exist around us, both literally and verbally defined. It is somewhat funny to see how often we perceive the sufficient physiological space as insufficient psychological space available. Perhaps we simply ask for more when we have our basic needs satisfied, perhaps we are born to aim for more secured environment or perhaps we feel threatened at the intrusion of others which we least expected or even, the most desired ones. At times we feel lonely at people’s absence, as though there’s too much space for ourselves alone and hence, the urge to have someone filling in the blank. Nevertheless, we tend to find it stressful when the particular person does not perfectly fit in the slot as we perceived him as over-controlling and that we need fresh air coming in between, to help smoothen and freshen up everything, including the difficult times once had, forgotten about previous moments when we in need of other living beings’ presence. We reserve space for the special someone or perhaps the special group of people, but we complain on their intrusion in the same time due to the lesser personal space available; such conflicting desires, such irony.

Equation

It has been quite some time now. The intrinsic motivation of writing more seems to be slowly disappearing, as there were lesser time for inspiration kicks in due to lesser personal time for day dreaming. Complicated mathematic equations no longer show up as often now ever since the psychology course takes over pre-u, until the one fine day when S:R→C sticks out from the paper. Over the time as we grow, overcoming challenges and different perceived obstacles, we develop our own schema in handling situations and even, the expectations. Perhaps an easier term can be applied in here; equation. We have different formulas for different roles which we play as, our own ways of handling difficulties and making decision. It is a very common saying, “We are all different individuals, who might share the similar thoughts but will never be exactly the same, both physically and psychologically.” The ideas we have in mind, the perception we gain through information heard and the little thoughts intervening in between are formulated in a way, but also vulnerable toward influences at the same time. One person’s solution may not be as effective when applied to another individual and certainly, we cannot simply force someone to accept and follow whatever we think is the best, though many still do without them knowing, including the person who typed this entry. Personally, it is our choice whether to apply other people’s formula into selves in which we may not be satisfied with or, to come up with our very own equation over time, for various settings and purposes. When we find alien formula unfits, just leave it aside and figure a better one because it is simply an example and guidance, but never the must-do in our lives. It is our choice indeed.