Talking about attribution on the reasons which may have
caused our behavior and the psychological defense mechanism such as projection
and substitution, we know best what we do when we are coming across unpleasant
stimuli just so to make us feel whole lot better. Every little incident has its
impact onto our feelings, does not matter whether it is in a good way or bad.
From time to time we are hurt by the words spoken or the message delivered, where
our hearts sink and not know what or how to react for the first few seconds,
then back to the reality and start wondering what we should do or should have
done. Rewind our memories few years back, we start comparing how the same
particular person has treated us before and after, where we will then comment
on how silly and stupid it was, though it may seem to be heart-warming and
joyous back then. Once read a story that a heart covers in scars is one true
beauty as compared to the ones without any scratches at all. Nevertheless,
personally find it hard to have one soul that is fine as though it is still new
to this world and yet to experience different kinds of obstacles ahead. Perhaps
we are made to forgive and not forget, or we simply do not forgive as long as
we still remember the incident which occurred, not to mention we sometimes
enhance our memories just so it fits onto our perspectives and our perspectives
only. Perhaps we simply not wish to admit how we prone to recall the less
pleasant memories on how the others have treated us and how often we have the
urge to have our revenge by telling ourselves that particular person does not
worth our friendship. Perhaps we are like any other wounded beings, dislike
people showing up and faking a smile on the face while telling us everything is
as good as it used to be when it is not. Perhaps we just want to have a peace
at mind, repressing the unpleasant emotions and thoughts, though it is just for
the few minutes from our lives.
