Obscene. Evil

Looking at the picture of a sexy bare back lady, a friend called it obscene; looking at the candid photo of a teacher which somehow looks funny, a friend said speak no evil. Why obscene and why evil? Perhaps it is simply an expression that we dislike one particular style of a person and that we should say nothing regarding the funny moments being captured in the camera, especially those candid shots. This is the result of variation in perspectives. Some do not agree to the fashion of wearing low cut tops or dresses where we show plenty of our skin whereas certain groups categorize it under beauty; Some enjoy taking candid as it always surprise us in a way as we don’t see the same poses over and over again but rather the moments where we don’t usually manage to capture whereas some find it offensive because that is their privacy. However, people tend to put the so called principles and views aside whenever they are not the person involved, in another words, no actions would be taken as long as they are not the ones in the picture where many others laughing at, not to mention we prone to not remember the feelings of being insulted or offended when we ourselves are teasing the others due to a photo or an act. Call that obscene? Not really. Call that evil? Don’t suppose so.

Teachers

All teachers teach, but not everyone teaches and those who teach not necessary able to deliver the message accordingly. We can find teachers in school, but also in the circles around us, for it is not a must to be a teacher before we can teach. Those who understand may not be able to teach and those who can teach may not understand what they are teaching. A simple theory with the simplest definition can sometimes be deadly, when we fail to interpret the meaning and when the channel is not right. Perhaps each and every one of us is a teacher, not realizing that we actually have students learning from our mistakes and from their own, that we are teaching them the lessons in life, chapters which we can never find in the books. Down the journey of life off we go, we find ourselves home and from one checkpoint to another, we get ourselves teachers, be they the teachers in school, a friend in the circles or even strangers by the roadside; it does not matter who they are or where they are from, as the most important fact is that we have learned, from the teachers who may not be teachers.

Shadows

Shadows come in different shapes and sizes, depending on the external factors. Always, we are able to see the people around us from a different angle and always, we fail to see ours instead. As a listener, we hear dozens of stories, be they the unspeakable or the opposite; as an advisor, we share the opinions of ours, hoping it can at least untie the dead knot in many; as a person, we need helps at times, especially when we are trapped within the world we can never imagine. When we are to say that shadows are our reflection in which they are telling us who we really are, note that it changes, just like how our roles vary from one situation to another; when we are being told that we are worthless, fight back and prove to those who never have faith in us, that we are not who they think we are as it can only be determined by our doings and not the words from their lips; when we are hypnotized by the perspectives of others and our low self-esteem that we are useless, it is time to wake up and take a good look at ourselves in the mirror, to recall the past and to change the future by alternating our current thoughts. Understand the shadows and we shall interpret our lives better, as each shadow has its very own story to tell, where we link them up all together before we are to discover who we really are.

Third Affection

Sometimes wonder, are we living our own dreams or of others’ instead? Is our doing related to what we like to do or even what we want to do in the first place? Why the opinions of third parties can affect us so bad that we lose control of the direction and even ourselves at times? Dreams can be real and the reality can be dreams; whichever it is, how clear are we? There is no clear cut, no nothing especially when the perspectives are all mixed up and we have no idea where to start with. We have those who are in dilemma when there are two or more options given, people who ask others to make the decisions on their behalf, individuals who struggling hard to survive and yet end up coming back to the starting point where the history repeats. What the others have to say are indirectly affecting our thoughts and decisions being made, which may boost us up to the top or perhaps, kick us down the bottomless pit; say, we agree with the others on how insignificant we are, we allow people to ruin our confidence being built after years of effort, we welcome them to tell us what we are instead of us searching for the answer. Indeed there are times where the third parties know better, but not always; as what they see might only be the surface and not the inner part of ours.

Wish List

We have a wish list of our own, be it obtaining an item, meeting a person or even making a dream comes true; however it is unpredictable how long it may takes to make them a reality instead of a dream. A question came into the mind; do we fulfill the dreams alone or we need help from the others as well? Perhaps many would say it is essential for us to fight for what we deserved, to complete the quests alone and to get what we jotted down in the wish list with our own bare hands; in which is close to impossible at times, but not always. On the other hand, there are those who ask favors from the people around when help is truly needed in order to achieve one of the aims stated in the wish list. Whichever ways being used is fine, as long as we earn it the way we should be, not through cons and lies, for the wish lists are so holy and pure as they contain the wishes and dreams of a person, where efforts will then be put in so that it would no longer be a dream, but for real.

On Stage

Standing on the stage where the audiences were hidden in the dark, as the light was so dim that we could barely see any, except for the spotlight which was shining on us, making our eyes went blind. Funny feeling it was, as if we are the items on the display shelf of the higher ground, where many can see what we do and who we are but not necessary us knowing who they are and what they do in return unless they are outstanding enough to show up under the same spotlight. In the current society of ours, we have different positions and grading; where people compete with one and another in order to climb to a higher ground, where many look forward to be at the higher position, where most of us think that we are at the top of the world and no one else can achieve what we already have. As we go higher, we tend to see nobody in sight, not exactly in the sense of we look down on the others but us prone to ignore what they have to say or have in mind, whereby we need a middleman in order to keep the two parties connected from time to time. On the other hand, we are often being judged by the visible and invisible, as there would always be the criticism does not matter what we do or how we do it, since there are the differences in perspectives and views. Anyhow, it is the spotlight which would determine us on who and where we are; to do so, we need to stand out among the crowd, to be on stage, be it in the sense of physical appearances, mentality or capability.

Demanding

It was a talk in the car, where one particular topic was brought up. Very often, we find people demanding in variety of areas, be it between the couple, friends and family or even among strangers. Perhaps we are being ignorant when it comes to our own attitudes, or maybe, we do not notice the fact that we are not as perfect as we think we are. From time to time we hear people saying sentences like, “I want you to smile,” “You should respect me because I am older,” “I didn’t expect him to do such a thing,” where some may be pissed and some feeling happy as the incidents occur, varying from one to another. Such demands or perhaps in another word, the requests are sometimes from the bottom of the heart when we truly mean it, does not matter whether it is in a good way, or bad way. This is how it usually goes; when we care for one particular person, we would ask for more, even if it seems to be ridiculous and harsh, as long as it does him good. On the other hand, the level of demands is sometimes proportional to the price we are paying, or even the prize we would be getting. Say, when we pay a certain amount of money, we demand for higher quality and also the quantity, if possible; as we spend our time and other ‘materials’ needed in order to get our hands on one particular item or person, we expect to earn something in return for the very least. A friend asked, “Aren’t we demanding?” Yes we are, in a way.