We sometimes see ourselves as victims in certain occasions, to show that we’re not the ones at fault, hoping to hear sentences like, “oh my, seriously?” with the little things-happen-smile on the face, we would say, “It’s nothing really, I’m all over it.” In class, we may have people who often find teachers being prejudiced, hence the bad academic performances and there are those at work who see the boss simply not open-minded enough to accept what they have in mind for the company’s brighter future. Even in a relationship itself, who’s the one being dumped seems to be a very big issue, where the person who has made the decision of such is somehow equal to superior. Certainly, there will also be the parties who would declare themselves as victims, thanks to the ‘intrusion’ of another person who coexists or whatsoever reasons there may be. Reasons for doing so; people would know how much we’ve been through, or that we needed someone to provide psychological support and probably, simply for the sake of getting sympathy. Very often, we see comments such as “What happen?” “Are you alright?” whenever a person’s status has been changed from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’, showing their concern perhaps, that particular person would be treated in a way as though he is the person being dumped who needs consolation right away. Nevertheless, I don’t suppose anyone would go, “Oh, it’s nothing, I dumped her anyway,” now would it? Therefore, we see people who stop all questions from coming in further by saying, “things happen, let’s just move on,” or sometimes, not even notify the circles around until weeks or months later when the cat is finally out of the bag. Come to think of it, perhaps the way the circles react to such issues plays a significant role in the victimization we have in the current days. Well, things do happen and we do victimize ourselvse, from time to time.
