Rituals

Every day, we engage in particular processes or actions under certain situations, whereby personally would see it as some form of ritual. Some of us may perceive the rituals as something meaningful, but what we may not notice is that, these so called rituals might not be as meaningful as we thought to be. For example, a person has been instilled with the concept of not wasting water usage by making sure he maximizes the uses of water. What he does is as simple as putting one hand in the running water while brushing teeth. It is his very own ritual to not wasting the water, but the truth is, he can just turn the water supply off while carrying out his daily hygiene care. There are other rituals such as saying particular something in order to console or cheer a person up. “I will always be by your side.” “Let’s go out and spend some time together.” Certainly, we may mean what we say, but, there are also the times when we say it for the sake of saying it, to help balancing the uncomfortable or reducing undesirable atmospheres. We can easily come up with our own rituals to deal with certain situations, but it is more difficult to determine whether they are as meaningful as we thought to be. 

The Eyes

Most of us are taught to initiate and maintain eye contacts when an interactive communication is taking place, as it reflects our sincerity and respect. Nevertheless, how often do we look into our own eyes and attempt to communicate with ourselves? The eye allows us to extract much information regarding a person, such as the genuineness and determination in the certain behaviour. In other words, it also helps us in establishing contact with our deepest desires and wants, or perhaps even the needs. Why so? Go to a mirror and have a good look at yourself, then slowly shift your gaze to your own pair of eyes. Notice the tiny sparks within the eyes, showing some sort of greed towards particular something, hidden yet visible, in which awaits us to disclose further. Personally went through heart-breaking incidents, resulted in pessimistic self who sees the world as grey, ignoring other possible colours. Nonetheless, the negative perceptions diminished on that very fine day, when the eyes met up with the same pair of eyes mirrored in reflection, landing the focus on the little hope which still lives in self: the want to push all unexpected and unwanted events aside, stepping out from the current pathetic self and transform into a whole new being, ready to take on many more upcoming challenges. It may be referred as suppression, or it can be part of our growth, depending on whichever stance we hold onto. The point is, the desire to survive and live on is implanted in us, but it is up to us whether we are able to gain access to that particular want or not. There will always be the pair of eyes watching over our actions, and when we are able to find them, we are then able to locate the determinism in us, hence strive harder than ever to achieve what we intended to achieve. The eyes which symbolize strength, await. 

Process vs Outcome

From time to time, we face the obstacles in life, which may instill the sense of helplessness in us, and hence the urge to give up arises. As some may say, how we initiate a goal somehow reflects how it may turn out to be, whereas some may see the process holds the key to desired outcomes. Personally is skewed to the latter concept, in the same time values process more as compared to the outcome. Reasons why? Taking the first step to start a commitment is indeed difficult and requires courage; nonetheless, a strong determination is needed to go on with what has been originally drawn out, and needless to say, to overcome the obstacles ahead. Challenges come after one and another, as though they are meant to put us to test and evaluate our qualification to achieve what we wanted to achieve. It is noteworthy that challenges as such come in many forms, range from people to events occurrences, pushing us to the edge of the world, forcing us to choose between giving up and moving on. Therefore, it is crucial to understand that we are responsible over our very own actions and every decisions made, whether to fail or to succeed in accomplishing the tasks given, thus scoring the goal. Whenever we are worn out and not wish to carry on with our original plans, take a deep breath and rest our mind, replenish our souls and re-strike, for we are merely the human beings who need to take a break from time to time in order to be effective once more.